Spy vs Spy

How to Win All the Time: Part II

Spy vs Spy
Spy vs Spy

Okay to be clear, classic reaction projection is actually how to only feel like you win, but you actually lose. Beware! Be self-aware and conscious. 

From Wikipedia: “Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against unpleasant impulses by denying their existence in themselves, while attributing them to others.[1] For example, a person who is rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude.

According to some research, the projection of one’s negative qualities onto others is a common process in everyday life.[2]


If I had my druthers, I would reverse the process. In a perfect world, we would recognize pleasant properties of others and seek to emulate them. When confronted with an unpleasant  challenge, then it becomes a “You Da Man” battle.

In the real world, I’d love to see more proactive win-win thinking instead of zero-sum tactics.

It would be nice if disagreements ended more times with “I understand what you’re saying” rather than two sides lobbing unlimited arsenals of their own stink over a Berlin-style wall, trying to make the other smell worse.

Good luck out there!

Jon   $:^)



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